How to deal with your wife?
Wife may be right, her decision may be effective and correct.
Don't underestimate your wife:
Part of kind treatment is listening properly to what she is saying and responding properly. Being right is not limited to men; it may be your wife’s view that is correct and her suggestions and advice may be good.
There should be discussion between husband and wife before taking any decision related to family, business, work, job, children, education of children, marriage of son and daughter..
Remember how the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) listened to the advice of his wife Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her) and adopted it in a matter of great importance. That was during the well-known Treaty of al-Hudaybiyah, when she suggested to him that he should go out and not speak to anyone among his Companions until he had slaughtered his hadiy (sacrificial animal) and shaved his head. Our Prophet Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) did as his wife (may Allah be pleased with her) suggested and there was a great deal of good in that.
Hence we advise you to be the one to start a discussion between you and your wife and open your heart and mind to what she has to say, and listen attentively. Then you can either accept Prophet Muhammad (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him): “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife.” Narrated by at-Tirmidhi, 3895; classed as saheeh by Shaykh al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami‘, 3314.
Do not forget the words of Allah (interpretation of the meaning): “And live with them honourably” [an-Nisa’ 4:19].
Mutual discussion between husband and wife:
Discussion between the spouses increases the love between them and strengthens the bond between them; it also helps to reach the right decision in matters of married life and household and family affairs.
Arrogance and Pride:
It was narrated from ‘Abdullah ibn Mas‘ood (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “No one will enter Paradise who has an atom’s weight of arrogance in his heart.”
A man said: What if a man likes his garment to look nice and his shoes to look nice?
He said: “Allah is Beautiful and loves beauty. Arrogance is rejecting truth and looking down on people.” Narrated by Muslim, no. 91
What is meant by rejecting truth is denying it out of arrogance and pride.
Looking down on people means scorning them and thinking little of them.
Ref: islamqa.en/info
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