We should keep our wife happy

Praise be to Allah.  

The husband has to treat his wife in a good and kind manner, and to spend on her food, drink, clothing and accommodation, because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“and live with them honourably”

[al-Nisa 4:19] 

“And they (women) have rights (over their husbands as regards living expenses) similar (to those of their husbands) over them (as regards obedience and respect) to what is reasonable, but men have a degree (of responsibility) over them. And Allah is All-Mighty, All-Wise”

[al-Baqarah 2:228] 

Ahmad (20025) and Abu Dawood (2142) narrated that Mu’awiyah ibn Haydah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: I said, “O Messenger of Allah, what are the rights of the wife of any one of us over him?” He said: “That you should feed her when you feed yourself, clothe her when you clothe yourself, you should not hit her on the face, you should not curse her and you should not forsake her except in the house.”

Al-Albani said concerning this hadeeth in Saheeh Abi Dawood: (it is) hasan saheeh. 

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) enjoined good treatment of women in more than one hadeeth. Hence the husband has to fear Allah with regard to his wife, and give each person his or her rights. Honouring one's parents and upholding the ties of kinship do not conflict with treating one's wife kindly and honouring her and taking care of her.  The best that can be mentioned concerning that is the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him): “The best of you is the one who is best to his family, and I am the best of you to my family.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (3895) and Ibn Majah (1977). Classed as saheeh by al-Albani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi. 

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) regarded being kind to one's family as being the criterion with regard to who is best. Whoever wants to be one of the best of the Muslims should be kind to his family, which includes being kind to one’s wife, children and relatives. 

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “You will never spend anything seeking thereby the Face of Allah, but you will be rewarded for it, even (the food) that you put in your wife’s mouth.” Narrated by al-Bukhari, 56. 

Four factors for rectification of self, house and society

*What are the 4 factors or characteristics that will bring ourselves, our families, our society rectification?*

Example 1: *A person is upon no correct Aqeedah, but he has point number 2, 3 and 4. However, there is no goodness in him. Either he is a disbeliever even though he has excelled in other points. Even if people perceive him to be good, but there is no goodness in that person.*

Example 2: *A person has sound Aqeedah, but he has issues in his Ibadaat. This is also a great deficiency. Shaytan comes from different angles or levels to deceive a person. First, the shaytan would push you away from doing Rawatib Prayers and then he would push away from doing sunnan prayers and then finally Fard. Hence there is no goodness in this person irrespective of having correct Aqeedah because correct Aqeedah necessitates action which is Ibadaah.*

Example 3: *A person has sound Aqeedah and he established Ibadaah, however, he has issues in Mamlat (Dealing or interacting with people). The person is corrupt, is a cheat, have ill dealings with the people and also maybe a fornicator. This person has rectified himself forget about his family.*

Example 4: *A person has a tick mark against all the above 3 points, but has no good Akhlaq (Manners) with family members or his parents. The person doesn’t take an effort in disciplining his family. His daughters come late at home or wife leaves home uncovered. A person may put food on the table which is haraam.*
A person will be punished for not fulfilling the responsibility towards one’s family.

18 Benefits of Prayers

*18 Benefits of (Salah) Prayer:*
Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah [d.751] (Rahimahullah) stated:

- 1 - Prayer is something that causes one to receive sustenance.

- 2 - It is something that safeguards one’s physical health.

- 3 - It keeps away harmful things.

- 4 - It casts away illnesses.

- 5 - It strengthens the heart.

- 6 - It brightens one’s
countenance.

- 7 - It delights the soul.

- 8 - It gets rid of laziness.

- 9 - It makes the limbs active.

- 10 - It increases one’s physical strength.

- 11 - It expands the chest (making one at ease and giving him insight).
- 12 - It is nourishment for the soul.

- 13 - It illuminates the heart.

- 14 - It safeguards one’s blessings.

- 15 - It repels catastrophes.

- 16 - It brings on blessings.

- 17 - It keeps away the Shaytaan (the Devil).

- 18 - It draws one close to Ar-Rahmaan

Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah [d.751]
Source: Zaad al-Ma’aad (4/304-305)

Explanation

Benefits ,advantages and importance of Salah(Namaz, Prayers)

Allah's Pleasure

Nearness to Allah

Love of Allah

Allah's Forgiveness

Jannah(Paradise)

Protection from Jahannam(Hell)

Protection from punishment of grave(Qabr)

Protection from humiliation and punishment on day of Judgement

Protection from evil and sins

Protection from Ailments and disease

Rewards,Favours and Blessings from Allah

Protection from Satan(Shaitaan,devil)

Protection from accident, problems and stress